Friday, June 27, 2008

The significance of c/185

Having named this blog by a house address requires some explanation. It was a house on about 2 grounds (4800 sq ft) of land in a cul de sac that anna built. But it was much more than that. It was a metaphor for an era and a life style. Eras change and so do lifestyles, but it is always easy to understand and laugh at one’s own when you have something to compare it with.

Thus, the building of c/185 (later renumbered 248) was a major accomplishment. It was a time when you did not have home loans available from banks, so it meant digging deep into your own reserves, and borrowing from one’s retirement savings. Anna was scared of debt and it was years of nagging by amma (‘all your friends have already built their houses’ etc. usually drove him to another room) that got him on the path.

A local bigwig (lawyer, I’m sure, active in the Music Academy, and so on) had recently deceased and left his estate to his children. Some of them were selling some of their shares and we took one.

The design was his, but he got hold of a junior architect, Hariharan, at a prominent architect’s firm to do the detailed drawings. Hariharan lived in the bachelor rooms at the Royapettah YMCA and we would catch him in the mornings or evenings to go over details. A general contractor was appointed but with the provisio that some of the materials would be provided by us. Cement remained a big problem, for it was an era or shortages and you needed permits and licenses to obtain many of the requirements. Ice House chithiya (S. M. Rangaswami, amma’s uncle, who used to work for the PWD, so that was enough qualification!) would come at critical times to check if the concrete was being poured properly for the roof, and the lintels were properly wired.

When it took so much effort to build the house, it had to be loved! And did he love it! Anna would stand back on the street and admire his work of art, even years after its completion. He chose not to live in the company housing in Adyar but preferred to live in his own house. His ostensible reason was that he did not want to live with colleagues next door, but I suspect the real reason was the satisfaction it gave him.

Maintenance was big with him. He was always looking to see what needed to be fixed and would have it fixed. The grand kids, during vacation visits, would be given a can of oil to go around oiling the hinges and the locks. They would also be given huge bunches of keys to go around identifying and marking as the keys were matched to the locks. Nobody could hammer a nail into a wall to hand a picture without his permission, which was rarely given. He would regularly pull chairs and tables a few inches away from the wall so they did not mark the surface. The brassware that he loved to display would be polished by him, with an old banian and a can of Brasso. All the while complaining that ‘If you wanted to give a gift to someone you did not like, choose a brass item. They would have to polish it the rest of their life!

Disturbing the structure petrified him. (He had rejected concealed wiring since he thought that if the wires needed to be replaced, it would require breaking the surface and the re-plastering would show!) For years he planned to add rooms to the terrace on the first floor and would wander around the terrace while shaving and with the soap foam dripping but never had the courage to initiate the action. The only change he made, with great reluctance, was to re-do the kitchen (re-position the sink, lower the counter, and add cupboard space) while grumbling to everybody outside amma’s earshot that it was unnecessary and ruined the kitchen!

A house like that is also a base of sorts. A base to come to during vacations, since it was always there. There are few such ones around anymore. (The other one that served its time was ‘Sripuram View,’ Chinni’s grandparents’ home.) I recall the vacation visits of the family and let’s hear their voices of what they remember!

Once the house was done, it had to be named. As Usha points out, there were several under consideration, but none that was important enough to merit christening. Some of the ones that made the initial cut (only partly in jest) were ‘At last’ and ‘VR7.’ More serious was ‘Thirumala’ the abode of his patron lord and Kamala (both his wife and his mother’s names). But in the end he decided not to hang a plaque. Perhaps he did not want to drill additional holes on the wall to hang the sign!

Monday, June 23, 2008

अ Preface

Family lore may be interesting to some and boring to others. I was listening to a caller on a radio show who was reacting to the speaker on the program commenting on the value of learning from the dead. One of the ways he said was when you visit the cemetery and recall the gravesites. So the caller remarked that his parents were cremated and he tries to perpetuate the memory of his parents by telling the stories about them to his children.

We all wish to know more about our families, long-past anecdotes, and wish to keep connected. At one timeI did not! उसके बारे में याद है! I remember the times when I would rather be in my room on the first floor of 248 RH Road (formerly c/185) reading a comic than come down and say hello to Rajamani Kuttipa who may be visiting on a Saturday afternoon। Fortunately, after a brief hello, parental conversation would move along and I could slip back upstairs। That was in 1966। In 2003, when I visit Chennai, I make time, to drive 20 miles in congested traffic to visit Rajamani Kuttippa …। To say hello!

Different folks have different recollections of the same event and that should be interesting. Some remember more than others. I guess another reason for putting things down on paper is that age differences allows some people to know erstwhile events better than others. Papu and Shanti, for instance, will be able to recall more of Anna from the time they spent holidaying in Royapettah than Bharadwaj who was four when Anna died. Or Jag will recall more of life in Secunderabad than I would . Putting things down gives everyone an opportunity to understand a time which seems hazy.

Family gatherings at weddings, deepavali, etc. are other times to exchange information on ‘Remember when …’ Such gatherings are few and far between as we disperse around the world. So it is time to digitize them.

Moreover, it is not just long past events. We would love to read about current events too, I'm sure. About a snake that turns up at Kaigal guest house when Umesh is staring at the ceiling, or Papu's recent trip to Singapore.

The technology of today makes this free exchange possible. It also allows dissenting opinion, by allowing others to append a footnote clarifying their memory of the incident which may be different from that of the writer. இங்கே தமிழ் உம் ஹிந்டிஇல்லும் எழுதலாம்! (One can write in Tamil and Hindi also here! And Prem can write in Kannada or Telugu also!)

Welcome to Royapettah High Road

One more blog to crowd cyberspace! This one is inspired by Shanti, who wanted to collect family experiences into a book. Good luck to her! But I thought, hey, why not start a blog, and so here we are. I have appointed a technical advisory team (Vivek, Sreshta, and Bharadwaj) who will guide me through the process of navigating access to this cyberspace. I hope to entice others to post to this space as well, after I get help on how I can allow them to do so! Till then, I hope the comments feature will, at the very least, make people participants and not just be lurkers!

What topics will be covered? Family reminiscences, current family events illustrated with photos, and anything else you are interested in airing in public (yes, remember this is NOT a private site!).

So, keep it coming folks!